Who Are You Putting Last?

Hey Bold Soul,

I want to tell you something I don't share everywhere. 

I came from chaos. Poverty. Substance abuse in my home. Physical and emotional abuse, also in my home. The kind of upbringing that turns a lot of people into statistics.

I didn't become a statistic. I pulled myself up and out, figured everything out on my own, and prided myself on never needing anyone's help.

And somewhere in all of that surviving, I became the person everyone else needed.

I called them my “assignments”. At any given time, there was at least one person in my life I felt responsible for guiding and informally coaching with anything they had going on in their lives. It gave me purpose and made me feel like I was doing what I was meant to do.

What I didn't realize was that I had never... not once… made myself the priority.

About ten years ago, after two relocations, I found myself in a new city without an “assignment”. I didn't know what to do with that emptiness. I needed to be helping someone on a deeper level than the corporate leadership coaching and classes I was doing.

One morning, getting ready for work, I looked in the mirror and asked God: "Who is my next assignment?"

The answer that came back had me in tears.

"You are your assignment."

That was the beginning of everything changing - not quickly, not easily, but absolutely true.

I started confronting the things I didn't talk about. I stopped tolerating “less than”. I stopped softening myself to make others comfortable. I started, slowly, making myself the priority. I started seeing the world as my playground. I started remembering who I was before the world told me who to be.

And I want to ask you something.

Who have you been putting last?

Hit reply and tell me. I read every single one.

More soon.

Keep becoming YOU!

Melissa